Super Husband, Super Dad by Tim Shoemaker

Author:Tim Shoemaker
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9780736953511
Publisher: Harvest House Publishers

Don’t Wait for Hallmark

When someone goes on a job interview, one of the things they’re interested in is how many days off the company provides. Sick days, personal days, paid holidays, vacation days. Everybody likes days off.

We’ve talked about the importance of treating your wife special. Creating your own holidays is one more way you can do that. Sure, you already have Christmas, Valentine’s Day, your anniversary, and birthdays. But the more special days you can celebrate, the more fun you’ll have. You might add the anniversary of the day you started dating—or got engaged.

Men, you don’t have to spend lots of money, but you’ll really make her feel loved and secure if you remember special days—and put effort into keeping them special. Homemade cards are perfect. I make plenty of cards for Cheryl—and they’re no less special than store-bought ones. Just the opposite.

I’ve heard guys gripe about the “Hallmark Holidays.” They refuse to participate. They talk like it’s nothing but a marketing gimmick to separate them from their money. They’re actually proud about the fact that they don’t get suckered in by all the nonsense. They may be right, and it may be a fine attitude for a guy to have as long as his wife feels the same way.

And that’s the key. Men, how does your wife feel about it? Somehow I can’t imagine them bragging to other women they know, “Your husband got you a card? What a loser. My husband is a real man. You’ll never catch him getting a card or some silly little gift to say he loves me.”

You don’t have to buy a card—but do something. Women want to be remembered. To feel special. To know that some of those key dates in your history together are valued by you—because they all led to the two of you being together.

My folks used to declare “unbirthdays.” Any random date would do. It was an excuse to go and celebrate. To have ice cream or make a routine day really special. Cheryl and I celebrate a number of holidays every year besides the usual ones. March 8—our wedding anniversary. March 24—the day we got engaged. December 7—the date we officially started dating. We average at least one “holiday” a month.

Early in our marriage Cheryl and I started “You’re Something Special” days. We didn’t spend money, or if we did, it was very little. It wasn’t about presents, but the gift of time spent with the other person. It was about showing we cared enough about each other to plan ahead and make each other’s day a little brighter. For me, it was a way to show Cheryl how special she was to me.

As time went on and kids started coming, this tradition turned into “You’re Something Special Week.” It was something just between Cheryl and me. It’s about planning little things to give each other—like the time I made the boys’ school lunches for a week. It might include doing things together that were outside our normal routine.

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